(Wo)Man in the Mirror

For the past three years, in one way or another, my life has been chronicled here for all to see.  Sometimes it’s been a raw candid.  Other times, a polished portrait only showing what I think is okay to put forth.  But for better or for worse, I’ve turned my psyche inside out on the internet, and there’s no going back now.

In so many ways, this little digital illustration of ME is cathartic and wonderful (for me).  But in so many other ways, it’s confusing and damaging.  Like, first of all — when you’re so lost you don’t know your ass from your elbow, maybe looking at the numbers on your website or your twitter feed or whatever other measurable forms of friendship you’ve entrenched yourself in in an effort to figure out who the hell you are isn’t the best way to do that. Blogland is a place of metrics and it’s easy to get lost trying to figure out if people like you, and why they like you, and how come that post got all those comments and this one didn’t, and wait, do they like her better than me? …and who’s reading and why, and from where, and WHAT DO THEY WANT FROM ME!?  (The answer, fellow bloggers, is of course nothing. If you build it, they will come.)

If you’ve been reading for a while, then you know that these questions cause me personally to have a breakdown on a quarterly basis.

But in it’s best moments – blogging is about creating a history for me and my family.  Creating a journal, a field guide, that my daughter can look back on when she’s ready to dive head first into her own adulthood.  And perhaps the greatest part of blogging?  Bloggers.  Those people who love to share and are always willing to share just a little more if you ask them to.  They’re friends and teachers and co-conspirators, and I’m honored to be able to call myself a part of this community that succeeds based on the simple idea that all boats rise together.  And they do.

Do you have a blog?  I want to read it.

24 Responses to (Wo)Man in the Mirror

  1. Mindy says:

    I agree! The Blogger community is wonderful. I have found more friendship and support in 6 months of (serious) blogging than I have in 10+ years in Corporate America.

  2. Maribel says:

    Hi Morgan, I am not a blogger, but love the fact that as a community you are all accessible and open, share and communicate with each other, and support each other’s work. That is totally amazing, one of the things why I love to follow your tweets/blog.

  3. the818 says:

    Thank you @Maribel – that is one of the reasons I love to do it!

  4. the818 says:

    Link your blog lady!

  5. hjunderway says:

    Sometimes I feel like Alice in Blogland. I look around all lost & confused about the blogging world, just trying to find myself in it all. Glad that there might be other Alice’s around.

  6. JenSchoeph says:

    as i am becoming more confident with myself and even finding my style of writing/blogging, i am becoming more “daring” in reaching out to fellow bloggers (& some who i hope to be-friend, meet & create long standing relationships with). coming into this community is down right intimidating. bloggers who’ve been at it awhile are, at times, hard to approach. but i always try to remember that i am writing for my kids (& myself), not anyone else. i look at my blog as a modern day baby book/scrapbook. i want to remember the everyday silliness not just the BIG ticket happenings. i’ve been following/reading your blog since you were preggers with Dee. i have enjoyed following your journey because, to me, you’ve been candid and open. that is admirable because you don’t sugarcoat things like some do. i thank you for sharing your journey. :)

  7. Jennifer says:

    I love how raw and real you are on your blog :)

    xo Jennifer

    http://seekingstyleblog.wordpress.com

  8. alyvaught says:

    I’ve been following you since the tri boards. I think you’re writing is cool, quirky, relevant, and random. I really like reading your posts, whatever they are. I recently moved to Los Angeles and the thing I thought about was how cool it would be to run into you, but then again how much of a stalker I would feel like if I did…anyway, I do have a blog and I think you follow it.

  9. wa_tracy says:

    Blogging is such a huge community. I find myself saying some of my closest friends are bloggers. And it’s great to chat with people who are like minded and don’t feel like the blogging/writing goals I have are trivial. I love that I made the plunge into this.

  10. Karen Sima says:

    I always thought the best blogs were the ones who had great content, professional and personal blogs. In my opinion great content comes from posting real honest opinions to sharing stories, and pictures.

  11. emmykastner says:

    I’ve been having a great time reading your blog as of late. Not sure how you stumbled on me on Twitter, but I’m glad you did. I am constantly reminding myself that I’m new to this, numbers definitely don’t define me (although it’s what a lot of people are asking for!!!) and I’m venturing into this whole world for myself. I know if we lived in the same town we’d be meeting up for playdates. Thanks for sharing this, it’s a good reminder and it always feels nice that other ladies are thinking the same thing!

  12. the818 says:

    @runreganrun Thank you – great to meet you too! And love your card :)

  13. Michelle says:

    You forgot that as soon as you like one number, you find another that seems failing… why do I have so many comments, yet so few pageviews? Why do I have so many unique visitors and such a high bounce rate? It is a never ending cycle to the point that I have put a self imposed moratorium on checking them.

    I’m new here. Great post.

  14. Thank you for this… I’ve been working through what my blog is and what it means lately, when the numbers grow so does the pressure to keep posting, keep adding, keep doing – I need to remember that I started it for me! In the beginning it was my ramblings, then it was recipes, now it is my ramblings in recipes because that is how I roll! feel free to stop by! http://84thand3rd.com

  15. TheMamaChaos says:

    Your blog inspires me to be more open and honest on mine. It’s hard to do but it’s also what makes for awesome reading. Mine is http://chaosandloveshop.com.

    • the818 says:

      @TheMamaChaos Thanks lady :). My advice would be to just push yourself a little bit each time you write. But definitely don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with – once it’s out there and it’s been crawled by google you can’t take it back!

  16. alexcampbell11 says:

    Most of the time blogging does for me what I want. It helps me create a scrapbook of my first years being married & being a mother & even being an adult. But there are other times that I remember that there is a bit of ego involved & everyone wants to be recognized & oh why can’t I be?! There are some days or weeks that I won’t even look at my stats because they can feel so crushing. But I *try* to subscribe to the same philosophy you do. If you build it they will come.

    http://www.beforethebabywakes.com

  17. DizzyMsLizzi says:

    After over 5 years of blogging (mostly on a private family site), I am still trying to figure out what I want to say or who I am or what my voice is. Blerg. I commend you for putting yourself out there – the raw, the polished, all of it. If you want to check my blog out, I’m http://www.welcometothejuggle.com – I’d be honored to have a fellow 818-er stop by!

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