How Do You Know If You’re Raising An Asshole?

{My sweet baby on her first day of pre-school-camp.}

Spirited.  Spunky.  Scrappy.  Salty.  Her little personality has emerged GUNS BLAZING and if anybody had any questions about whether or not Miss Delilah George’s disposition would be as sweet as her face…IT’S NOT.

Don’t get me wrong, the girl is a snuggle bug, she’s sanguine as she wants to be ~ and no, internet, I’m most certainly NOT calling my kiddo an asshole ~ I’m just preemptively pondering…when does precocious and persistent turn in to something else entirely and how do you keep your spirited kid in line without breaking their…y’know…spirit?

My girl has quickly become my favorite companion.  She’s bright as a LED bulb and funny to boot.  But she’s also stubborn as all get out.  And if you give her a flicker of a smirk at something she shouldn’t be doing?  Forget convincing her it’s not funny.  She’s got a mind of her own, and she’s not afraid to use it.  And I love that.  Spunk runs through both sides of her family and I’d be worried if Dee wasn’t showing signs of rise-up-with-fists-ness but in favor of teaching her cool from jerk, when do I send her to her room, and when do I let her rebellious spirit fly? 

9 Responses to How Do You Know If You’re Raising An Asshole?

  1. I have some of the very same questions.

  2. FireMom says:

    You trust your gut. That’s how you know when to send her to your room and when to let it be. You’re not an asshole. Trust yourself not to raise one. And if she turns OUT to be an asshole, you can tell yourself, “Well, at least I’M not an asshole.”;)

  3. wa_tracy says:

    Since I realized Abby understands emotions, I play that card. She knows that being “mean” is not a good thing and gets upset when I tell her she’s being mean by not listening. I also tell her it makes me sad when she does certain things. The other day, I told her I was sad that she wasn’t eating her breakfast, and BOOM she started eating. This doesn’t work all the time, obviously. I mean our kids are just shy of 3 after all, but it has helped a bunch. I use time outs in her room as a last resort. Like after over and over asking her to stop a behavior or cool it with the whining, I say to her, “Do you need some time in your room.” I always give her a couple chances. But sometimes, like I said, none of this works, she goes to her room, my heart aches as I hear her scream and cry and want mommy, but when all is said and done, we chat about what happened, she offers up hugs and kisses to make it better, and all is good again…for that moment ;)  But really, I think this age is an asshole age. I find myself hiding in the bathroom at least once a day since I’ve been home this summer…mostly to eat a piece of cheese or yogurt w/o the constant demands and cries from her for a taste.

  4. Jessica Moss says:

    well…all i have to say is look at me. you do the math!

  5. JenSchoeph says:

    i call my daughter a bitch, often.  people laugh but i’m serious.  i’m thankful that i am her mother & that sure the teenage years will likely age both of us i’m just happy we will come out on the other side & will be able to laugh (i hope).  but also, i’d like to chalk it up to the fact that all of our daughters have spunky, sassy, spitfires for moms…no?!?!?

  6. Nicole Stinson Tucker says:

    Hmmm… I’m raising an almost 15 yr old boy… I think they are all kind of assholes at that age! Here’s hoping they grow out of it!

  7. I have four year old twins and I’m with you in questioning their fiery spirits. I want strong girls, but they are such little shits so much of the time! I guess we’ll have to wait it out…fingers tightly crossed!

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